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07
Sep
09

It’s Labor Day but what is Labor Day for? According to Wikipedia “Labor Day is a United States federal holiday observed on the first Monday in September (September 7 in 2009).

The holiday originated in Canada out of labor disputes (“Nine-Hour Movement”) first in Hamilton, then in Toronto, Canada in the 1870s, which resulted in a Trade Union Act which legalized and protected union activity in 1872 in Canada. The parades held in support of the Nine-Hour Movement and the printers’ strike led to an annual celebration in Canada. In 1882, American labor leader Peter J. McGuire witnessed one of these labor festivals in Toronto. Inspired from Canadian events in Toronto, he returned to New York and organized the first American “labor day” on September 5 of the same year.[citation needed]

The first Labor Day in the United States was celebrated on September 5, 1882 in New York City.[1] In the aftermath of the deaths of a number of workers at the hands of the US military and US Marshals during the 1894 Pullman Strike, President Grover Cleveland put reconciliation with Labor as a top political priority. Fearing further conflict, legislation making Labor Day a national holiday was rushed through Congress unanimously and signed into law a mere six days after the end of the strike.”

I say its a celebration of every worker that has to put up with a “boss”. It’s our one day to say Hey we value you! Yes we all work or have worked for hte money we have and the paychecks we receive but its mostly working stiffs that make this country run daily not the politians that think they do. 😉

Keep up the good work and enjoy your Labor Day !!!

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31
Aug
09

Forgiven?

Its very difficult when someone you think is a friend does something you don’t like, especially when its to you or about you. So how far do you go to forgive? How much forgiveness is there?

Let me start by saying forgiveness is not usually really about the other person, its about you. It’s about you letting go of a grudge, hurt feelings, anger, disappointment etc… It is not about whether they tried to make amends, apologized for what they did/said or how they handled anything.

The reason forgiveness is for you and not the ohter person is simple. If you harbor a grudge, hold on to the anger, etc. you’re letting the other person control you. You’re letting the other person dictate how you feel, what you do, how to act but if you chose to forgive, and yes its a choice, to let it go and forgive. So when someone does anything that needs to be forgiven for remember this word:

letitgo….

10
Aug
09

What is your word worth?

Continue reading ‘What is your word worth?’

03
Aug
09

What Makes It Happen

Ever notice how you go to several events and one seems to come to memory more than the others. Why is that? Well it had nothing to do with how alcohol you drank…it probably had to do with the music.
It is amazing how music can just change and uplift an event like nothing else. Music has the ability to connect to the listener at an emotional and sub-conscious level. The rhythms can reach right into primitive sections of the brain and trigger responses that are positive or negative. Background music especially can set the right tone for locations and events. A good disc-jockey can play music to the crowd and find the right balance to touch the audience.
Ever notice how seated at a restaurant, you can have a conversation with your table mates and not feel as though the whole place is tuning into your conversation? Music in the background can give a sense of intimacy that drowns out other conversations.
Our Disc-jokey says that he can usually tell if guests are enjoying the music just by watching them even if no one is dancing. Looking over the crowd he can see people tapping their hands and or feet. Sometimes even the occasional person mouthing the words to the song. These are all tell-tale signs that the music is having an impact.

So if you want to make your event whether it is a simple open house or some kind of meet and greet, music can make it happen and raise the event to a new level that the attendees did not expect and will talk about days later.

20
Jul
09

They said what…

Called your piece of art junk did they? Oh, no…they did not just call you a liar? Told you that you’re an ineffective presenter? Bashed your book?

What do you do when criticized? Do you blow up? Fly off the handle? Get indignant? What is the proper response?
Flying off the handle, getting defensive and wanting to go on the attack are the knee jerk reactions to all criticism. It always seems hurtful, untrue and like being picked on back in grade school to those on the receiving end. There are, however, several ways to handle the criticism without making it worse by flying off the handle.
1.) Take a deep breath before speaking. Let the person have their say and then think before you speak. You don’t want to say anything that will come across as negative, hurtful or make you look rude… protect that rep! You don’t want to add fuel to the fire so count to at least 10, formulate what you’re going to say before you say it, even if it takes a while.
2.) Take the constructive parts (if there are any) to the criticism and see if you can put them into practice. Sometimes there are little nuggets of help in what is being said, though it may have been said in an incorrect way. For example if after changing my hair color to purple someone said “Oh My God what did you do to your hair?” I can probably safely assume they didn’t like it and that purple is not a good color for me. However if they were to say: “I preferred the color it was before” I still know they don’t like the hair color but it’s a better way to say it.
3.) Sometimes it is not about you. It’s about them and how hurt, angry frustrated or jealous they are. In those cases I have one word for you “forgetaboutit” … or “letitgo” … Remember if you respond immediately you might make things worse and turn things into a full blown argument so go back to #1.
4.) If you have time before responding make sure you’ve eaten and are well rested. I know if I haven’t eaten I am more likely to respond in a negative way to things that are said and that happen rather than when I’m not. Eat, sleep on it then respond if time permits.
5.) Do not respond in email. So much is lost in email, texting, etc. I believe (don’t quote me though) that statistics say that 8% of communication is the words used and that 92% are tone, body language, and facial expressions. Also as a rule never put in an email what you would not want printed on the front page of the local newspaper. Once you send out an email, you have no idea who will see it after the intended person receives it.
These are my top 5 ways to handle criticism. In Summary: Don’t take it to personally. I know the negative words stick with us and that the negative is so much easier to believe, but it is more than likely not right, after all it is just one person’s opinion.

13
Jul
09

Questions?

I’ve heard time and time again how the only stupid question is an unasked question. I have to say that I believe it to be true. So why are we afraid to ask questions?

We’re afraid to ask questions for several reasons, one of which is looking inadequate. If everyone else understands and I do not that must make me look stupid. I must really be dumb not to ‘get it’ when everyone else does. I remember a few years ago my daughter, Katrina, then a freshman in high school coming home flustered that she couldn’t do her homework because she didn’t understand how the math problems were solved.
“Didn’t the teacher explain it to you” I asked
“Yes, but I didn’t understand” she replied
“Why didn’t you ask her to explain it again?” I queried
“WHAT… and be the only one who didn’t get it? Mom do you want me to look stupid?”

After chuckling to myself I tried with all my mom skills to explain that asking a question doesn’t make you look stupid. I was unsuccessful, and she refused the rest of the year to ask questions in math so how she received that A is beyond me.

As a matter of fact, just this week I received an email stating that someone I was working with didn’t understand but “didn’t want to waste anyone’s time by asking questions.” Waste time? Isn’t it more wasteful to have misconceptions, misunderstanding and miscommunications? Isn’t it more time consuming to have to rehash all of those misses than to ask upfront for clarification?

I believe it is. I am an inquistive person by nature, I am a detailed person so I”m always asking, okay did you.. have you.. could we.. does this mean.. does that mean..

I guess the bottom line is don’t worry about looking stupid asking questions, ask! Ask! and ask again! Save yourself time, hassles and headaches by asking what you need to know.

10
Jul
09

Good Morning Lodi Founders

I wanted to say a special Good Morning to BNI Lodi Founders. One of the best chapters in BNI Central Valley. Thanks everyone for making every Friday start with a rocking good time.

Lodi Founders chapter is looking to add several professions to the chapter. If, you’re in business I encourage you to check them out. We’re there every Friday (7am – and you won’t regret getting up early) at 942 E. Pine St., Lodi CA. Come check it out!




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